FORCED HUMILITY

I've seen people who speak harshly to their subordinates. They treat them anyhow they like, and even lambaste them before other people. The irony of this is that these people expect their subordinates or their followers to exhibit humility. If they react in someway other than what their leaders want, it is counted as pride.

Don't test people's humility by treating them badly. Don't say that man is proud because he walked out you while you were scolding him like a kid publicly. Don't say that lady is arrogant because she talked back at you when you were obviously and intentionally embarrassing her by saying horrible things to her privately or publicly. (Meanwhile, I am not giving an excuse for people to disrespect their leaders).

A lot of people are guilty of this; pastors not excluded. I've been a witness, and this is not nice at all. Forced humility or humility by coercion is not Christianity. Unfortunately, many people suffer in silence in the hands of these leaders. They prefer to bear it all by accepting it as a cross. Some even call it training. WHAT!!! You call calling someone lazy, clueless, foolish, not serious etc, and shouting at them training?😱 You gotta be kidding me. Some even fake the humility. They are humble before their heads, and speak ill of them behind them. Many a time, forced humility is the reason for false humility. This is still not acceptable. Some leave the offices of their bosses with tears in their hearts and wounded spirits. You call a whole family man lazy and clueless after leaving his home early in the morning to come to work, and expect him to feel cool with it?

These are issues to be corrected, but we see them in the church too. This is not to condole incompetence or lack of excellence at work or in any duty. No, not at all. We should do our work as unto the Master as Paul the Apostle in Colossians 3:23 instructs us.

Work hard and cheerfully at all you do, just as though you were working for the Lord and not merely for your masters. TLB.

So we must undoubtedly work hard and be good at whatever we do, in our secular jobs or in the household of God. Don't be the reason for the wrong treatment.

Nevertheless, everyone should be treated fairly and with love, no matter what. Humility is a great virtue, in fact the key to being lifted by God (James 4:10). As an employer, boss or leader, you can fire or discipline someone gently. It doesn't mean there may not be times when you get angry if things go wrong. At such times you might want to scream or turn the tables. If this happens, let it not be a permanent character exhibition; and be sure to apologize or explain the reason for such an outburst. It doesn't even have to happen anyway. There are so many ways to handle annoying situations.

Again, do not force people to be humble by not giving them the opportunity to speak their minds or express their feelings. As a subordinate or employee, do not show false humility to a leader. You can handle unfair treatment peacefully and humbly. This will help you not to grow bitter or feel a need for vengeance. Ephesians 4:31-32 rightfully talks about getting rid of all bitterness, rage, etc. If you're being falsely accused, you can stand up for yourself in a humble manner. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1.

It is God's desire that we show forth this fruit of the Spirit. Philippians 2:5-8 explicitly describes Christ's humility. This is our pattern, and we must walk therein. 😊